Traversing The Divide
There is no greater burden than the burden of opportunity. That is the best way to sum up the emotion underpinning the day I first realised I was truly South African. Never discounting the sacrifices of those to afford us the liberties we now all have, the challenges still remaining cannot be ignored. The first two sentences sound overly political, for which I apologise, but follow me here: sitting with a group of friends fast approaching the end of high school and discussing what our future plans were, most of them spoke as if their plans were limited to that which they could do, as opposed to that which they wanted to do. Some spoke of working in mines, others banks (as tellers) and the others resolute to whatever they could get. Here I was plotting how to get my record label off the ground, as well as the additional businesses I had in mind, and also when exactly I intended on actually getting round to university. Two very different sets of outlooks, obviously.
See, the thing is, I grew up very well educated and with tons of opportunity that my mother worked hard for. Political developments meant that my generation was the first generation whose formative years were spent in suburbia and who went to “model c” schools. Yet, obviously, one’s entire history does not move in one generation, and therefore I spent my entire holidays in a township called Thlabane on the outskirts of Rustenburg. So I had two sets of friends whose worlds never mixed, my friends in the hood and my friends in the ‘burbs. As a result, two sets of outlooks, two sets of perceptions, two sets of expectations and perceived entitlement.
My story, not being at all as unique as it sounds in writing, meant I was exposed to two worlds – at times wholly different and at times overlapping more than some think. Yet, the whole “feeling South African” stems from realising that not only is this country’s greatest challenge general disparities, but also the human condition. The liberal in me believes that all should have the same opportunities sensitive only to their ambition and not to their social condition. It also stems from the realisation that nowhere in the world can people – individuals and groups – do more remarkable things than in this country. South Africans are awash with opportunity within the bounds of the most remarkable (borderline unbelievable) culture, and maybe, just maybe, as South Africans, our identity stems from this.








Nice story Motheo – I look forward to reading more from your perspective
Interesting perspective Motheo, having grown up in two different worlds, as it were. Thought provoking article also, in terms of perceiving our “South African-ness” in terms of the opportunities inherent on our rather unique diversity.
p.s. you are so right about the ‘burden of opportunity’ too!
Beautifully written! Thank you Motheo!
I can honestly say that I have always been shocked by people who do not think further than today and do not plan to study further, or to even finish high school…
Interesting article Kgaetsedi, I understand your article completely and relate as well and have to say having been through similar experiences it can be hard to sort know who to pleas or even who you let in, in yor life as some are just there for pure non-sensical reasons….
Thanks all. I appreciate the kind words. I’m glad the article has struck some semblance of a chord.
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@Dive: Completely agree! Beautifully written.
@Motheo: I really enjoyed your piece – such an interesting perspective, and a reminder of how complex being South African really is – it’s never black and white, is it – excuse the terrible pun! It would make a great book… imagine one story reads from the front of the book (one world), the other reads from the back (the other world) and in the middle they merge. Would make a unique structure for a autobiography
Sorry Diva, I meant DivA
Very good, your perspective really is going to be interesting
@Wendy: will add that as the third book I need to work on. If it’s going to be an autobiography, perhaps I should get round to doing the remarkable already so as to give reason to the belief that people would want to read it
. Awesome idea on how to write it, though. Mmm…
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That ‘burden of opportunity’ is something that I really am going to have to think about. It’s crazy how one’s ambitions/dreams can be limited by one’s upbringing.
Can’t wait to read more of your stuff Motheo.
The picture on the right look like an American suburb, where do you find houses without any fences/walls in SA?
It always amazes me how easily people with your background move from one “world” to another, fitting in so easily, yet being able to look at it objectively. Did your friends from the ‘burbs’ never resent your education?
@theFlipSide – with regards to the images, they’re both generic. They aren’t actually “the places” I grew up in. The township isn’t as rural as the image depicts nor is the suburb as open as you point out.
With regards to my background, you must understand that my ENTIRE education was done in the ‘burbs. The whole thing. I had family in the township and would visit them for holidays, but I grew up and spent the bulk of my time in the ‘burbs. So with regards to resentment, there was no such in the ‘burbs. There were one or two people in the ‘hood who had issues with me for they thought I thought of myself as being “better than them” but for the most part, I mixed easily.
So, really my objectivity doesn’t come from my education, I think it comes more from my experiences. I think once you realise that people… all people… have exactly the same emotional makeup, you stop creating those barriers wherein people refer to others as “them and us”.
Your economic background is a genetic lottery – I could have been somewhere completely different from where I am now. And based on that “chance”… surely it’s not okay to just dismiss it as “oh well, unlucky about the bad hand”. Or so I believe, at least.
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All images are a result of my late night last night
@Alex don’t excuse them, they’re for effect
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Just teasing about the picture – at first it reminded me of The Truman show (hence the question), but it definitely does the job
We had a lot of girls with your background at school with us, your article provides an insight into what they must have experienced.
@Motheo: Sometimes, the life you’ve already lived IS remarkable.
Well written as always.
@ Steve-O, and you remain my biggest fan
. I appreciate it, as always.